Social transition
The next transition from high school to college that I want to discuss with you is the social transition. Again, I'm borrowing today from journalist and speaker Harlan Cohen, and adding some of my own thoughts. Here are some things to consider about the social transition:
1. Develop a plan for establishing a sense of community. This means finding your people on campus. What are the things you love to do, the causes you're passionate about, the academic subjects you're interested in? Join a few clubs and organizations where you'll meet other people who share your interests and passions. Almost certainly some of these people will become your friends.
2. Meet people who are not your roommates. If you happen to hit it off with your roommates, consider it a stroke of good fortune. But don't rely solely on socializing with your roommates. Keep an open mind. Early in your freshman year, when everyone is still acclimating to college life, is a great time to sit down in the dining hall next to someone you've never met and strike up a conversation. Making a regular habit of being open to new friendships will make your relationship with your roommates less codependent and more harmonious.
3. Intramural sports are a great, low-stakes way for you to meet new people. You don't need to be a star athlete to play intramural or pickup soccer, ultimate frisbee, softball, or pickleball. It's also a great way to ensure you're getting some exercise!
4. Stay safe. If you're going to a big campus-wide event or party, go with a friend. If a social situation makes you feel uncomfortable or unsafe, trust your instincts. Communicate with the people around you to let them know how you're feeling.
5. I've said this before, but try to define yourself socially by something other than alcohol or drug use. Drinking alcohol, especially heavy drinking, can adversely affect your health, your immune system, your energy level, and your academic performance. And if you do something foolish when you're drinking, there may be other kinds of unintended consequences. I suggest learning to be less reliant on alcohol as a social lubricant, which will make you stronger, healthier, and more resilient.
